"31st March 2016"
Initially I wanted to write this post by tomorrow but it'll be April already. So I decide to write it today and this post will be the last post for the month of March.
Throughout all these days, by writing this blog in 2 languages actually discloses that I have at least 2 types of personalities. I had a dinner with one of my best friends yesterday and he confirmed to me that my thought is changing radically from time to time. I might write something which means X to him today and then I would write something else which means Y on the next day. This is the reason I do not want to review all my previous posts because I feel strange about it and I would be wondering how come I wrote something like that during the moment.
This is the main reason that all the personality tests fail on me. When I'm writing this post, pretty sure that MBTI is still number one choice for everyone. However, my result keeps on changing from time to time. There are 16 different personalities in MBTI, and my result could be this when I first taking it, and then change to another one for the second time. If I wait for a few days and take the test again, I would have a totally different personality.
Anyway my mentor advised me not to waste time on all these so called personality tests because they are all not accurate. Thus I listen to him and forget about all these tests. Whatsoever different personality at different time really happens on me. Most probably it is due to a specific hormone in my brain changes tremendously. Medication does help me in stabilising my mood but it does not help in maintaining a fixed personality.
I have to announce that my relationship with the gal whom I met in the Single Camp has ended. She's still loving her ex boyfriend so much and I was just a spare lover for her. It was really hurt and I almost relapse because of her. Due to the medication, and all the loves and cares from my family, relatives and friends I have been went through this trial successfully without having another relapse. Thanks to my keep on changing personality too. Because of it all the hurts can be reduced speedily.
Thursday, March 31, 2016
Wednesday, March 30, 2016
《二零一六年三月三十日》
跟她之间才维持了两个礼拜，最后就连朋友也不是。对于这一段感情，真的非常小心翼翼，很想可以跟她建立长久的关系，结果却如此不堪入目。
开始的时候，两情相悦，似乎相遇、相识到相知都显得巧妙，仿佛冥冥中已经安排好了一样。她说，在营会里只注意我。她又说，对我有感觉。她甚至还说，会有想要马上爱上我的冲动。真的以为自己终于在对的时间，对的地点，遇见了对的人。第一个星期过得太甜蜜，无时无刻都会想着她，而她也告诉我她也同样一直想着我。
跟她相差八岁，害怕她会介意。还有关于自己的顽疾，更害怕她知道了后会远离我。因为这样，在开始的时候，想要对她隐瞒年龄和病情。可是她一直想多了解我，逼我把真实的年龄告诉她。我坚决不肯，对此守口如瓶。营会后跟她见了一面，她竟然说对我的真人感到陌生。听了后很失落，不明白为何她会有这样的感觉。
后来她持续逼我告诉她我的年龄，因为她想知道这些年我到底做了什么。被她一再追问，苦恼不已，索性把年龄告诉她，甚至把病情也一概说出来。她一时觉得震惊，但是却镇定地告诉我她不介意，因为得到这样的精神状况并不是我的错。听她这么说，真的非常感动，犹如在她之前，另外一个女生同样有如此的反应。可是当时忘记了，之前另一个女生，就是知道我的病情后，频频告诉我，她为此对我有隐忧。
当她知道我的病情后的第二天，我发觉她跟我说话的语气变了。她感谢我对她的真心诚意，因这一切令她感动不已。似乎她话中有话，她对我所付出的，只纯属感动。有一天她对我说，她终于清醒了，她发现原来她的前男友一直住在她心里的至深之处。她发现原来她想找另一个男生，思想个性如她前男友的男生，以取代她前男友在她心里的位置。听她这么说，突然恍然大悟为何她会对我感到陌生，因我毕竟不是她的前男友。
后来尝试把自己的尊严放下，想继续跟她保持友谊，可是我做不到。为何要如此卑微，一直守护在她身旁，明明知道她的心里没有我，却盼望有一天她会把前男友放下，过后渴望着她将把我放进所空出的位置？为何要这么做，如乞丐跟随在她身边，一直乞求她施舍给我那一丁点儿的爱？
因着这件事，我几乎快要崩溃。若不是天天服药，加上家人和亲友们精神上的鼓励和关怀，相信我早已再次进入精神病院。把她放下了，同时也放了自己。祝福她把感情处理好，可以跟她的前男友复合，或是遇见另一位更好并深爱着她的男生。
跟她之间才维持了两个礼拜，最后就连朋友也不是。对于这一段感情，真的非常小心翼翼，很想可以跟她建立长久的关系，结果却如此不堪入目。
开始的时候，两情相悦，似乎相遇、相识到相知都显得巧妙，仿佛冥冥中已经安排好了一样。她说，在营会里只注意我。她又说，对我有感觉。她甚至还说，会有想要马上爱上我的冲动。真的以为自己终于在对的时间，对的地点，遇见了对的人。第一个星期过得太甜蜜，无时无刻都会想着她，而她也告诉我她也同样一直想着我。
跟她相差八岁，害怕她会介意。还有关于自己的顽疾，更害怕她知道了后会远离我。因为这样，在开始的时候，想要对她隐瞒年龄和病情。可是她一直想多了解我，逼我把真实的年龄告诉她。我坚决不肯，对此守口如瓶。营会后跟她见了一面，她竟然说对我的真人感到陌生。听了后很失落，不明白为何她会有这样的感觉。
后来她持续逼我告诉她我的年龄，因为她想知道这些年我到底做了什么。被她一再追问，苦恼不已，索性把年龄告诉她，甚至把病情也一概说出来。她一时觉得震惊，但是却镇定地告诉我她不介意，因为得到这样的精神状况并不是我的错。听她这么说，真的非常感动，犹如在她之前，另外一个女生同样有如此的反应。可是当时忘记了，之前另一个女生，就是知道我的病情后，频频告诉我，她为此对我有隐忧。
当她知道我的病情后的第二天，我发觉她跟我说话的语气变了。她感谢我对她的真心诚意，因这一切令她感动不已。似乎她话中有话，她对我所付出的，只纯属感动。有一天她对我说，她终于清醒了，她发现原来她的前男友一直住在她心里的至深之处。她发现原来她想找另一个男生，思想个性如她前男友的男生，以取代她前男友在她心里的位置。听她这么说，突然恍然大悟为何她会对我感到陌生，因我毕竟不是她的前男友。
后来尝试把自己的尊严放下，想继续跟她保持友谊，可是我做不到。为何要如此卑微，一直守护在她身旁，明明知道她的心里没有我，却盼望有一天她会把前男友放下，过后渴望着她将把我放进所空出的位置？为何要这么做，如乞丐跟随在她身边，一直乞求她施舍给我那一丁点儿的爱？
因着这件事，我几乎快要崩溃。若不是天天服药，加上家人和亲友们精神上的鼓励和关怀，相信我早已再次进入精神病院。把她放下了，同时也放了自己。祝福她把感情处理好，可以跟她的前男友复合，或是遇见另一位更好并深爱着她的男生。
Thursday, March 24, 2016
"24th March 2016"
Met someone special when I joined a camp for singles. There were 52 ladies and 28 gentlemen. She was outstanding to me and she was the only one I wanted to talk to. Every thing was so dramatic and it seemed like every single event was prearranged. Thus for the last whole week, I was in a wonderland until I could not write a word for this blog.
When I consulted my psychiatrist, he advised me not to tell her anything about my illness. I tried to hide this from her but unsuccessful. She eagerly wanted to know me more till I have to disclose this illness to her. Due to this illness, I was so complicated compared with other people. Every personality test failed to show my actual character. Obviously my character has been shaped by this illness because this illness has become part of me. Realised that hormone has great affect in changing a behaviour for anybody. In fact, I lack of a certain hormone which controls my mood. As a result, my character is pretty unique compared with other people.
Amazingly she accepted it with an open heart. For sure she felt disappointed that I have such an illness but she knew no one is perfect. I'm touched by her because she even understood that this is not my fault. I was born with this disability and this is a fact I have to face it. She needs more time to understand me and I'm willing to wait for her.
Yes, I do feel that this illness is shameful. Anyway, having this illness is really not our faults. We should not ignore it but face it as a bold warrior.
Met someone special when I joined a camp for singles. There were 52 ladies and 28 gentlemen. She was outstanding to me and she was the only one I wanted to talk to. Every thing was so dramatic and it seemed like every single event was prearranged. Thus for the last whole week, I was in a wonderland until I could not write a word for this blog.
When I consulted my psychiatrist, he advised me not to tell her anything about my illness. I tried to hide this from her but unsuccessful. She eagerly wanted to know me more till I have to disclose this illness to her. Due to this illness, I was so complicated compared with other people. Every personality test failed to show my actual character. Obviously my character has been shaped by this illness because this illness has become part of me. Realised that hormone has great affect in changing a behaviour for anybody. In fact, I lack of a certain hormone which controls my mood. As a result, my character is pretty unique compared with other people.
Amazingly she accepted it with an open heart. For sure she felt disappointed that I have such an illness but she knew no one is perfect. I'm touched by her because she even understood that this is not my fault. I was born with this disability and this is a fact I have to face it. She needs more time to understand me and I'm willing to wait for her.
Yes, I do feel that this illness is shameful. Anyway, having this illness is really not our faults. We should not ignore it but face it as a bold warrior.
Monday, March 21, 2016
《二零一六年三月二十一日》
上整个星期过得很梦幻，梦幻得无法静下心来写部落格，索性休息一个星期不写。在营会里认识了一个女生，一见到她就立刻被她吸引，然后积极让她在面子书里加入了我。在很戏剧化的情形下，竟然有机会把我的电话号码给了她。更棒的是，她住得很靠近我的家！她非常主动地联络我，好让我们之间的感情可以慢慢地发展和建立。不知道将来会怎样，只好一步一步地走。
上个星期六去见了精神科医生。那医生如常，问了我一堆的问题，每次见面时都会问的问题。每次他问我跟女友怎么样，我都会告诉他我没有女友。这一次告诉他，最近认识一个女生，我们都对彼此有好感。我问医生，应该如何告诉她我的精神状况？那医生根本不必想，直接回答我不必告诉她。我很讶异，那医生继续解释，因为如果告诉了她，会引起不必要的争执，毕竟一般人对这精神病都不甚了解。我点了点头，对医生说，“好的，不要对她说。”
生活过得跟一般人一样，除了每天需要吃颗药丸，把情绪安稳着，一切都可以如常。怎么会那么简单呢？或许真的是自己想得太复杂。
上整个星期过得很梦幻，梦幻得无法静下心来写部落格，索性休息一个星期不写。在营会里认识了一个女生，一见到她就立刻被她吸引，然后积极让她在面子书里加入了我。在很戏剧化的情形下，竟然有机会把我的电话号码给了她。更棒的是，她住得很靠近我的家！她非常主动地联络我，好让我们之间的感情可以慢慢地发展和建立。不知道将来会怎样，只好一步一步地走。
上个星期六去见了精神科医生。那医生如常，问了我一堆的问题，每次见面时都会问的问题。每次他问我跟女友怎么样，我都会告诉他我没有女友。这一次告诉他，最近认识一个女生，我们都对彼此有好感。我问医生，应该如何告诉她我的精神状况？那医生根本不必想，直接回答我不必告诉她。我很讶异，那医生继续解释，因为如果告诉了她，会引起不必要的争执，毕竟一般人对这精神病都不甚了解。我点了点头，对医生说，“好的，不要对她说。”
生活过得跟一般人一样，除了每天需要吃颗药丸，把情绪安稳着，一切都可以如常。怎么会那么简单呢？或许真的是自己想得太复杂。
Friday, March 11, 2016
“11th March
2016”
Being rejected is a painful experience. It’s equivalent to
being ignored by someone you care. Of course I should bear part of the responsibility
when these things happen. As a rule of thumb, I think, when these things
happen, another party also has to bear another part of responsibility.
Normally when all these things happened, I would put all
the blames solely on myself as if I was the culprit for all these failures.
Later I realised, it should never be like this. Why should I put all the blames
on myself only? When something wrong happened, both parties needed to bear the
responsible together. It should never be either other people or I alone was
wrong. However, this kind of thinking seems logical but it does not help much
either.
On 07/03/2016, I was being rejected by a university to
study a PhD course. I spent such a long time to prepare everything, waiting excitingly
for the course to be started in April. Some more the dean of the PhD faculty
and my supervisor confirmed to me that they had accepted me for the course. It all seemed promising. As a sudden, I was
being told that the university provides IT courses only but not engineering
course. I stated to them that I wanted to do an engineering course when I first
met the dean and my supervisor. They asked me to go to another campus of the
university, look for another lecturer to be my supervisor. How come they
themselves could not transfer me to another campus and refer me another
suitable supervisor? I felt so disappointed and wrote an email to the dean,
voiced up my mind to her and complained to her that she was wasting time and
she was not capable to be a dean. If I could talk to her in a diplomatic way,
most probably she would give me a hand to survive a seat in another campus of
the university. Why did I react in such a way during that time? In fact, I don’t
trust the dean anymore. This is an incident of being rejected.
Give you an incident of being ignored. There was a gal
who did accept my mental health condition for a short moment of time but the
day next she quickly changed her mind. She suggested to me that we started our
relationship as friends. For me, I would think that this is a common tactic for
gals to reject guys. Anyhow I tried my best to be her friend, tried to
understand her and helped her in understanding me. It was a difficult process.
She used to get to bed so late but I used to get to bed early. I had to stay
awake till late at night for having a conversation with her. It was definitely
fine with me if my mood was stable or high. When I was in depression state,
this action was killing me. It was so painful emotionally until I had to
temporary isolate myself from the world outside. My friend advised me to ignore
her and never talk to her anymore. Whatsoever, I texted her twice but no more
reply from her. I told my friend, it’s better for other people to ignore me
away rather than I ignore someone.
I’m not perfect and I do make mistakes. When the mood
roars in me I will be out of my mind. Last time people emphasised so much on IQ
but later they focus more on EQ. The cruel fact is my EQ is terrible when I’m
in either up or down state. I do not mean to scold anyone or ignore people. It’s
really out of my control and I cannot help it. I feel guilty for all these
incidents. People have their own right to choose either be with me or stay away
from me. Life moves on held head up and walk.
Tuesday, March 8, 2016
《二零一六年三月八日》
很多时候，真的很希望一切的事物都在掌控之中。可是这么想的话，只会让自己感到痛苦，因为生活中会不断遭遇所谓的事与愿违。尽了力做好自己的本分，确保一切都无误后，某样事情也不一定会成功。事在人为？人定胜天？还是冥冥之中已有了安排？
不同的论调，都有一群拥护者。大家相互争吵辩论，似乎到如今都没有定案。正面思想成为目前的佼佼者，教导大家要保持乐观和积极的态度面对人生。豁达处世，要懂得放得下，凡事不可太执着，这古老的论调似乎会跟前者存有冲突。在成长过程里，我观察着长辈、同辈和幼辈们如何面对人生中的逆境，希望可以领悟出另一种的人生哲学。
为何突然说了这一些东西？因为昨天刚遭遇了不愉快的事件。原本计划在今年四月开始修读博士课程，去年找到了合适的大学和主任，想好了要研究的主题，呈上了所须要的资料和文件，兴奋地等待着课程开始。可惜昨天突然来个急转弯，主任告诉我那所大学只提供电脑资讯的博士课程，而我所要修读的是工程领域的博士课程。他说，他可以继续当我的主任，不过要我告诉该大学的系主任。当我通知了系主任，她说，这样不行，我必须到属于该大学的另一所校园去询问。后来，那主任告诉我，他接获通知，他不能继续当我的主任，我必须到另一所校园去找另一位适当的讲师来做我的主任。
长话短说，这大学用了一个很奇特的理由拒绝了我的申请。当时与他们见面的时候，我已清楚告诉他们我想要修读的课程，他们没有任何异议并全然地接受我。后来再去该大学见了主任，商讨要研究的主题，也在短时间内把建议书写好呈上。为什么在这过程中，系主任没有告诉我，我所要研究的东西是属于工程领域的，必须到另一所校园？过后两次匆匆下班后赶去见以前教过我的学院讲师，找她添写一些文件和签名，过后把一切资料呈上给该大学。为何在这过程中，没有人通知我必须到另一所校园？
昨天下了班后觉得非常愤怒，尝试把怒气消除，但是真的非常难受。随后写了电邮给该大学的系主任，向她述说我所有的不满。电邮最后的那一句，告诉她，“原谅我如此说，您根本在浪费着我的时间，甚至我觉得您不配当一名系主任。” 说了想述说的一切，情绪顿然平伏了。今早苏醒时，体会了人生因未知的事件而显得精彩！
很多时候，真的很希望一切的事物都在掌控之中。可是这么想的话，只会让自己感到痛苦，因为生活中会不断遭遇所谓的事与愿违。尽了力做好自己的本分，确保一切都无误后，某样事情也不一定会成功。事在人为？人定胜天？还是冥冥之中已有了安排？
不同的论调，都有一群拥护者。大家相互争吵辩论，似乎到如今都没有定案。正面思想成为目前的佼佼者，教导大家要保持乐观和积极的态度面对人生。豁达处世，要懂得放得下，凡事不可太执着，这古老的论调似乎会跟前者存有冲突。在成长过程里，我观察着长辈、同辈和幼辈们如何面对人生中的逆境，希望可以领悟出另一种的人生哲学。
为何突然说了这一些东西？因为昨天刚遭遇了不愉快的事件。原本计划在今年四月开始修读博士课程，去年找到了合适的大学和主任，想好了要研究的主题，呈上了所须要的资料和文件，兴奋地等待着课程开始。可惜昨天突然来个急转弯，主任告诉我那所大学只提供电脑资讯的博士课程，而我所要修读的是工程领域的博士课程。他说，他可以继续当我的主任，不过要我告诉该大学的系主任。当我通知了系主任，她说，这样不行，我必须到属于该大学的另一所校园去询问。后来，那主任告诉我，他接获通知，他不能继续当我的主任，我必须到另一所校园去找另一位适当的讲师来做我的主任。
长话短说，这大学用了一个很奇特的理由拒绝了我的申请。当时与他们见面的时候，我已清楚告诉他们我想要修读的课程，他们没有任何异议并全然地接受我。后来再去该大学见了主任，商讨要研究的主题，也在短时间内把建议书写好呈上。为什么在这过程中，系主任没有告诉我，我所要研究的东西是属于工程领域的，必须到另一所校园？过后两次匆匆下班后赶去见以前教过我的学院讲师，找她添写一些文件和签名，过后把一切资料呈上给该大学。为何在这过程中，没有人通知我必须到另一所校园？
昨天下了班后觉得非常愤怒，尝试把怒气消除，但是真的非常难受。随后写了电邮给该大学的系主任，向她述说我所有的不满。电邮最后的那一句，告诉她，“原谅我如此说，您根本在浪费着我的时间，甚至我觉得您不配当一名系主任。” 说了想述说的一切，情绪顿然平伏了。今早苏醒时，体会了人生因未知的事件而显得精彩！
Friday, March 4, 2016
"4th March 2016"
One of my friends sent me an article about 10 kinds of friends which you may just ignore them straight away. I read the article twice and found it was really interesting. Most probably, people may read it in the way to think about any of their friends belong to any of the kinds. In contrast, I read it in the way to analyse whether I have been categorised to any of the kinds. As a result, I have realised that I might fall into the drama king type. If possible, I do want to know why people chose to stay away from me. Is it because of this?
For your information, I live in a city. People in the city are usually busy in nature either they are truly busy or they act to be busy. As if a successful life equals to a busy lifestyle. They love to pact their time full of activities until they have not much time being left for themselves. Generally, no one dares to say to other people that he or she is free. If he or she says so, straight away, other people would think that the person is lazy, unproductive, or simply unsuccessful. From my point of view, those people are enjoying to be busy and proud to be crazily busy. Sometimes they may grumble about their busy life but they never change their lifestyle. In fact, they are not willing to do so.
Anyway, my point of view would be rejected straight away by almost everyone in the city. For the conversation in a Whatsapp group, sometimes I do voice up my opinion but no one agrees with me. Not a single one. Due to the mental illness, unofficially, I have been kicked out off the main stream, being judged as disqualified to fight with the majority. What I say has lost the power to convince anyone and no one would be willing to listen to me once they know I have mental illness. Subsequently, I become so free compared with the rest of them. The reason is simple, my superior will never let me handle all the important tasks (high responsibility tasks) and no one will ask for my consultation in dealing with their problems.
What's the point for today post? I do not want to be rejected and I do not intend to reject anyone. People reject me because of their own reasons but once they have decided to do so, I have to let them go. If you think that I have rejected you, please forgive me for doing so. The mood in me may grow so intense until it has the strength to tear apart my soul into pieces. I have tried to overcome this again and again but so far I have failed to deal with it. There must be a way, and I'm trying to look for it with all my best.
Whatsoever, I have to end this post with these few sentences. It's already a great testimony for me to keep staying alive. It's already an amazing thing that I can have a normal, healthy and active lifestyle. Action always speaks louder than words, and I will prove all my ideologies with my own life. I might be wrong, so I am still learning and looking for solutions. We need someone to be a torchlight for the mental illness people. I yearn someone comes to lead me but so far no one with himself suffering mental illness can proudly say, "Come, follow me, I have been through all these pains and I know how to deal with it." If there is no one like this, let me be a torchlight.
One of my friends sent me an article about 10 kinds of friends which you may just ignore them straight away. I read the article twice and found it was really interesting. Most probably, people may read it in the way to think about any of their friends belong to any of the kinds. In contrast, I read it in the way to analyse whether I have been categorised to any of the kinds. As a result, I have realised that I might fall into the drama king type. If possible, I do want to know why people chose to stay away from me. Is it because of this?
For your information, I live in a city. People in the city are usually busy in nature either they are truly busy or they act to be busy. As if a successful life equals to a busy lifestyle. They love to pact their time full of activities until they have not much time being left for themselves. Generally, no one dares to say to other people that he or she is free. If he or she says so, straight away, other people would think that the person is lazy, unproductive, or simply unsuccessful. From my point of view, those people are enjoying to be busy and proud to be crazily busy. Sometimes they may grumble about their busy life but they never change their lifestyle. In fact, they are not willing to do so.
Anyway, my point of view would be rejected straight away by almost everyone in the city. For the conversation in a Whatsapp group, sometimes I do voice up my opinion but no one agrees with me. Not a single one. Due to the mental illness, unofficially, I have been kicked out off the main stream, being judged as disqualified to fight with the majority. What I say has lost the power to convince anyone and no one would be willing to listen to me once they know I have mental illness. Subsequently, I become so free compared with the rest of them. The reason is simple, my superior will never let me handle all the important tasks (high responsibility tasks) and no one will ask for my consultation in dealing with their problems.
What's the point for today post? I do not want to be rejected and I do not intend to reject anyone. People reject me because of their own reasons but once they have decided to do so, I have to let them go. If you think that I have rejected you, please forgive me for doing so. The mood in me may grow so intense until it has the strength to tear apart my soul into pieces. I have tried to overcome this again and again but so far I have failed to deal with it. There must be a way, and I'm trying to look for it with all my best.
Whatsoever, I have to end this post with these few sentences. It's already a great testimony for me to keep staying alive. It's already an amazing thing that I can have a normal, healthy and active lifestyle. Action always speaks louder than words, and I will prove all my ideologies with my own life. I might be wrong, so I am still learning and looking for solutions. We need someone to be a torchlight for the mental illness people. I yearn someone comes to lead me but so far no one with himself suffering mental illness can proudly say, "Come, follow me, I have been through all these pains and I know how to deal with it." If there is no one like this, let me be a torchlight.
Thursday, March 3, 2016
《二零一六年三月三日》
人与人之间的关系很巧妙。你会跟谁比较要好，或者会跟谁比较投契，好像全然不由自主。对于躁郁症的人，因为情绪激烈的浮动，会很不幸地复杂化人与人之间的关系。若对方的情绪或个性处于极度善变的情况下，将让患有躁郁症的人士苦不堪言。
秉持着以真心与诚恳跟任何人交往，学习接受对方所有的缺点。可是由于自己的情绪比一般人浮动较大，在自我处理这方面的状况有时都会出现不知所措的窘境，所以觉得无奈自己无法应付对方更惊涛汹涌的情绪。当自己与这样的人深入交往，不知觉把对方的想法和情绪与自己挂钩后，情绪更处于全然无法掌控的状态。这是非常恐怖的事！
当出现这样的情况，唯有学会放手。其实会莫名内疚，但是真的不想自己再次陷入崩溃的状况里头。一旦进入了崩溃里，要再次站起来走出崩溃，那过程让人经历千百回的心力交瘁。在站起来之前的那股勇气，咬紧牙根的那股毅力，来自于身旁一直守候着我的亲友们。本来是一个很懦弱的人，原是温室里的小草，怎么可能一次又一次站起来呢？因此相信着，一个人能做的东西，往往是超乎他的想象。
人与人之间的关系很巧妙。你会跟谁比较要好，或者会跟谁比较投契，好像全然不由自主。对于躁郁症的人，因为情绪激烈的浮动，会很不幸地复杂化人与人之间的关系。若对方的情绪或个性处于极度善变的情况下，将让患有躁郁症的人士苦不堪言。
秉持着以真心与诚恳跟任何人交往，学习接受对方所有的缺点。可是由于自己的情绪比一般人浮动较大，在自我处理这方面的状况有时都会出现不知所措的窘境，所以觉得无奈自己无法应付对方更惊涛汹涌的情绪。当自己与这样的人深入交往，不知觉把对方的想法和情绪与自己挂钩后，情绪更处于全然无法掌控的状态。这是非常恐怖的事！
当出现这样的情况，唯有学会放手。其实会莫名内疚，但是真的不想自己再次陷入崩溃的状况里头。一旦进入了崩溃里，要再次站起来走出崩溃，那过程让人经历千百回的心力交瘁。在站起来之前的那股勇气，咬紧牙根的那股毅力，来自于身旁一直守候着我的亲友们。本来是一个很懦弱的人，原是温室里的小草，怎么可能一次又一次站起来呢？因此相信着，一个人能做的东西，往往是超乎他的想象。
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