2022-08-30

没有另一半，人生是否不完整？没有女朋友或妻子，我是否变成了不正常的男人？其实自己用了很长的时间，去接受自己有精神疾病，学习包容这伴随一辈子的残疾。

确实没有把心门关上，也不会拒绝有可能发生的新恋情。但事实是，一旦过了四十岁，要找到另一半会变得十分艰难。对于拥有精神疾病的人士们，肯定会难上加难，当然这世上依然存有幸运的个案。无法否认的是，一旦过了某个年龄还未婚，大家都会给予异样的眼光。

怎么去面对这些异样的眼光，还有痛彻心扉的闲言闲语呢？他们的眼光都不重要，他们的言词也不必理会。这世上真正关心你的人不多，我们只要把焦点放在他们身上就够了。至于这些看不起我们的人，只是宇宙的尘埃，一刹那即消逝。必需强调的是，这世上有真正关心你的人，所以我们不可以轻易放弃。

目前学习着好好一个人生活，在不同的人生阶段设下不一样的目标，更少不了一个远大的理想，好让自己生活得有意义。在每一天醒来时，眼睛睁开的时候，充满朝气迎接新的一天！

2022-08-30

After 40 years old, getting a girlfriend or even a wife becomes merely impossible. Although there are quite a number of guys marry after 40 years old, but it's really rare for guys with mental health issues. My parents still yearn that I would quickly get married and have children. As I become older and older, this is just a mission impossible. 

There are people who choose to be single forever, and they value freedom more than everything. Some people believe they would meet their Mr. Right or Miss Right. Thus, without such a person, they would rather to be single. How they know they have met such a person? How they confirm that someone is the one? If they are with someone already, then the real someone appears, would they separate with the initial one and be with the real someone?  Of course, this is their choice, and I shouldn't comment much. 

For myself, I never look for my Miss Right, just someone whom I love and she loves me back, and we could accept one another weaknesses. Of course, I wish I would have children too. If my partner is unable to give birth to children, or I myself have problems in having children, then I would go adopt some children as our own children. However, if I cannot find a wife, then I would not adopt a kid. 

There would be one day, that I must live by myself alone. It's definitely okay to be alone. I'm learning how to have an abundant life without a girlfriend or wife.