2021-06-23

曾经试着跟女生交往，过后发现在东方的社会似乎没有人肯接受精神病患者成为终身伴侣。东方与西方在思想价值观方面，确实存在着很大的鸿沟。东方当然有不少美好的价值观，这是毋庸置疑的，但是西方在某些领域也有其优异的价值观。

并非想论述东西两方的价值观，而事实是西方人比东方人更当然接受精神病患者。到目前为止，身为一位精神病患者，在华人社会里仍然是可耻的。西医有精神科，但在中医里没有所谓的精神科。人人都有情绪，可是身为男子的我却不能向任何人透露自己的情绪。情绪化的男子，较敏感的男子，是不被华人社会接受，因为这些只是女子的专利。

我没有能力改变他人的价值观，即使对方说不过我，他人却坚决认为他的想法是对的。主要的目的并不是去说服任何人，而是让他人知道并非人人都跟他拥有相同的想法。精神病患者为这世界增添了色彩。是的，我们确实为这黑白灰的世界增加了色彩。同性恋群众高举了六色彩虹，他们并不知道精神病患者给予世界的，何止区区六种色彩？

说到这里，重点是，我们是有价值的！重复一次，我们是有价值的！天生有材必有用，这一句话更加显现在精神病患者的身上。必须承认我无法解决许多问题，但我不想回避任何问题，而是坚决去面对。今天无法解决的问题，还有明天、后天、大后天等等。无论如何，我们必需选择——拒绝放弃！ 

2021-06-22

I cannot deny that it's pretty naïve for us to think everything is okay as long as we are faithfully in taking the medication. Of course, it's the most important part but surely not the full picture. After taking medication, I still experience mood fluctuation problem from time to time. I really don't know how to explain it to the others who never experience such a problem. 

Please do take note that the problem is not as severe as not taking the medication. Generally, it's still quite hard to bear. Should I share it openly to the people who are close to me? Should I keep low profile and never mention a word? So far, I try to hide it and continue my daily routine as usual. Why do I prefer to hide it? In fact, no one could really help. By telling someone that I'm feeling uncomfortable never ease the pains. Most probably, the person who knows it will feel worry and sad, and I have to spend more time to convince the person that I'm okay. 

Never lose hope, perhaps. I have no idea what would be happened in the future. Always hope for a good future, and also hope there will be cures for all the mental illnesses. The main message I want to bring out today is, never ever quit. For instance, there are a number of death cases for vaccination but we have to receive vaccination whatsoever. The fact is, it's better to be vaccinated. Similarly, surely it's better to keep on going rather than to quit. 

The actual picture for me at the moment is, I'm surrounded in gloomy darkness and hope for the dawn. No idea when would it arrive and just keep on waiting.       

 2021-05-28

有个朋友，他常常抱怨这个又埋怨那个，认为上天对他不公平，还不断贬低自己连阿狗阿猫也不如。让我略略介绍一下，这位朋友毕业于英国苏格兰的某间大学，还是某间公司的老板之一，不久前也结婚了。必须注意的是，他并没有什么严重的精神疾病，更加不是个双相情感障碍患者。

毋庸置疑，这个人就是典型的充满负能量的家伙。无论你当天怎么容光焕发，跟他小谈几分钟后，你即会感觉天空布满了乌云。如果你的心情已无比沉重，接触他过后，你会觉得人生突然变得一片漆黑。没有人是百分之百只有缺点，他的优点是相当重感情。在我们生活里，一定会遇见类似这样的人。问题是，我们有能力扶持这样的人吗？残酷的事实是，我们并没有能力。假若我们认为自己有能力帮助这样的人，极大可能会陷入更可怕的深渊里。

当然不是跟这些朋友都断绝友谊，只是必需清楚自己个人的精神状态。一旦发现自己的精神状况不理想，必需告知对方你感到非常不舒服，想要长时间安静歇一歇。相信这样的朋友，他们也不会狠心地让我们精神崩溃。虽然专家们劝诫我们要有一套完整的生活规律，但如果真的感到很辛苦，就让自己暂时停下来吧。

请不会尝试去改变某人，你只有能力改变你自己。这句话是真实的。指责他人的不是，把一切责任怪罪在他人身上是很容易的，但我们必须承担属于自己的责任。尽力去做好我们自己能做好的一切。请大家一起加油！

 2021-05-27

During this moment, we are easily be trapped in tons of negative news and emotions. People start grumble about this and that. It's really terribly hard to maintain a good spirit. The main thing is, we need to try our best to avoid ourselves blend into the same terrible sea of grudges.

Isolation from time to time is important. I personally need quite a huge amount of me-time. In the me-time, try to dig deeper into the heart, and make sure all the 'essential parts' are okay. Bipolar disorder people are pretty sensitive indeed. We have to make sure that we do not take other negative moods as if all those moods belong to us. Which one is ours and which one is others? We need to make sure about it clearly. 

Besides, I also take a firm stand in the time I need to rest and get to bed. I have informed my colleagues and superiors that my mental health condition needs a specific time to rest and could not be disturbed. This is really quite tough in handling my job. Should I be so cruel to see my colleagues suffering while I just doing nothing? Anyway, if I cannot have enough rest, I'll bring more sufferings to those who care and love me. 

Please keep in mind that we may not know our destination, but no matter what, we have to go on. Yes, please do go on whatsoever. It's difficult for everyone during such a moment. We have to go on and have a hope in our heart.  

 2021-04-20

当我们不断把注意力放在自己身上，极度关切自己感觉上的起伏变换，确实难免会变得越来越自我中心。随着时间的消逝，渐渐地认为一切一切都围着自己转动。事实是，我们只是宇宙里的尘埃。

很多时候，我们非常在乎的事，其实并不是那么的重要。完美主义或理想主义，会不会把我们给蒙蔽了呢？是的，我们当然希望一切如愿，当然希望一切都如此美好。可惜现实总是残酷的，他人对于精神病患者的怜悯也并非理所当然。在这个看重物质、金钱与利益的社会，肯定不是什么所谓的慈善机构。他人对我好，我会心存感激。若他人对我不好，却不可以心怀怨恨，毕竟他人并没有义务善待我。

我到底想表达什么呢？想说的是，在这世上肯定有在乎你的人，而且肯定不止一位。是的，精神病患者都要承受着精神上折磨，煎熬得如哑巴吃黄连，无论我们怎么向别人倾述都没有人能理解。为了关心你的人，我们务必要重新站立起来！这些关心你的人，他们对你的颓废消沉，对你看待生活的意兴阑珊，有多么多么的心痛，你知道吗？你是否想过，你与他角色变换，换成了你要帮助一位精神病患者好好振作起来。你可否想过，这任务有多么的艰难呢？他们脸上的无奈与疲劳，正意味着他们真的不知道还能怎么做，才能让你好好生活下去。在我们处于煎熬处境里，能否同时关切与可怜他们呢？

身为一位精神病患者，一位百分百的残疾人士，在许多事物上都会受人白眼，同时在背后也成为了很多人的笑柄。纵然如此，我仍然想为这世界贡献出一份绵力，即使是微乎其微的功劳也好，却不想成为爱我的人的包袱。

 2021-04-19

It comes again. Yes, twice a year, I need to suffer a long uncomfortable state. No idea whether it's depressed, manic or mixed, definitely a painful period for me. As time goes by, it happens again and again around April and November.

The fact is, my medication (lithium carbonate) does ease the pains. Before my very first breakdown, before being diagnosed as having bipolar disorder, when this happened, I had to paralyse in a bed for almost the whole day. When night fell, then I had a bit of strength to get out of the bed and find something to eat. Many years ago, it happened for a day. And many years after, it lasts for a few weeks. It is true that as I'm getting older and older, this uncomfortable state is getting longer and longer as well. 

Please take note that I'm still suffering while writing this blog. It is obvious that the medication could help me in getting a normal life as others. Of course, my productivity drops but I could keep up with my daily routines. For all the readers, you might think I have a strong mind to handle it. No, this is not true. Every bipolar people could share with you that this kind of emotional painful feeling is a tragedy. From my point of view, this painful feeling could be described as someone is piercing my heart bit by bit with a little sharp knife, and the blood flows out of the heart slowly. 

When the medication takes action, all these feelings are being minimised to the point that I could proceed with my daily routines. Besides, I love to study so much. Found a suitable master degree at a local university and I have registered with the university. Although I have such a mental illness, I'm still able to go for my dreams and various of hobbies. In fact, other people including all the ladies might look at me as a hopeless weirdo. As for me, life goes on, and there are 'mountains' ahead to be climbed. 

 2021-03-23

Obviously, it's essential for the bipolar people to remain calm for as long as possible. Unfortunately, there are dozens of reasons for anyone to lose temper easily. Theoretically, if we could be calm forever, then we do not have to take medication. 

Yes, that's right! If we could remain calm forever... Hold on, who could ever make it? In fact, none! No matter how good our temper is, we might lose our temper unpredictably. When I lose my temper, I would be outrageous, erupted like a volcano. Generally, I'm really a good temper guy but when I lose my temper, it would be crazily scary! Sigh... I'd never meant to act in this way whatsoever. 

Since my last discharge from the ward (in the end of the year of 2017), I was being outrageous twice in total. It was absolutely out of my control, and I didn't know why I suddenly got so mad. Fortunately, my medication did help me. Since I discharged from the ward till now, I faithfully take my medication and never miss a doss. If I stopped my medication, then for sure I'd have to admit psychiatric ward again due to falling into the chaos mind state and couldn't pull myself out of it. 

It was really strange that I did get so mad, and after a while, I could get back my sanity. It didn't happen once but twice. This really shows that taking medication is so important for all the bipolar people. The experience of breakdowns were too tough to bear. After breakdowns, the time to recover was pretty long. When I could get back my normal life, my soul was full of scars and might still bleeding. Everyone who did experience it sure doesn't want to have another breakdown. No more, please.

The side effects of the medication are so frightening and true. When I compare the side effects with my breakdowns, it's a wiser choice taking medication faithfully. Of course, I want to be a fit guy NOT a fat guy. And of course, I want to have a crystal clear mind NOT a foggy mind. All in all, undoubtedly NO breakdowns.