2018-12-10


The fact is, we may have a normal life as well as a productive life as others. When I read those blogs from other bipolar bloggers, this is the main message they would like to convey. Yes, this is true but not 100%.


Under medication, we may have a permanent job as others. If we never tell anyone, no one will notice that we are different. However, we cannot be the same as others. The way we think is different, the way we see the world is different, the way we response is also different. If other people get closed to us and try to understand us, they will definitely notice that we are quite special or unique.


Maybe, this is the root cause for my loneliness. I never want to be special, I truly wish I can be like the rest. Due to my uniqueness, most of the people don't want to get closed with me. It's normal that people like to be with someone who is alike with them. If this is true, actually bipolar people should be best friends together. Unfortunately, we are highly sensitive and thus we will be influenced by another bipolar people. Unless both of us are having medication obediently and we know how to manage our moods maturely.


It's OK to be special. It's also OK to be lonely. The main thing is, we need to know how to take care ourselves.

2018-12-10


发现在网络的世界里，有很多病患写的文章比我好太多，以致会觉得我的存在可有可无。是的，当一切平稳后，好像需要把自己重新定义。以前有很多目标，会一直担心时间不够。可是目前并没有任何计划，似乎可以处理好手头上的事物经已足够。


有了这种病，难免遭受旁人的排斥，无论是无理或礼貌的拒绝都一样让我伤心。很想做某样伟大的事情，好让大家可以注意到我，可以获得众人的敬重与接纳。可惜我的智商并非十分优秀，确实无法做出什么惊世之作。后来领悟，其实自己能好好生活，可以表现得如一般人一样已实属难得。是的，一般人认为普普通通的事，我们可以做得到真的很好了。


一定要好好工作，不管情绪怎么样，工作时间都要咬紧牙根撑过去。能有一份工作算是非常幸运，不会去在乎薪金和人事问题，也不会跟随同事们拼命换工作。最重要的，是上司能体谅我的状况，无法像同事们那样长时间工作。感恩公司肯继续雇用像我这样的员工。

2018-08-03

The only side effect of my medication is feeling a bit tired. Actually I was very energetic before taking medication. By having medication, I'm no longer a super human.

This should be the correct mindset, I just want to be a normal guy. Before taking medication, I was in manic state most of the time, super energetic and my mind working extraordinary fast. The problem was, if I faced a problem and I couldn't solve it, I would easily lose my mind. Thus, it is much better for me to slow down.

It's true that I did feel good to stay in manic state. However, it's a disaster once I lose my mind. My relationships had been ruined by my craziness and my career was almost gone. Hence, I'm willing to take my medication and have a normal life.

2018-08-03

以前有个自大的抱负，以为自己可以成为躁郁症病患者的典范，可以通过所写的文章来鼓励其他的病患者。后来在生活里遇到难题，领悟自己也只是普普通通的人，并没有如此大的影响力。

精神状况确实稳定了许久，唯一的副作用就是会觉得少少疲倦。这少许的疲倦，没有在工作方面带来麻烦。反应和脑力会比较缓慢，这都是为了阻止本人不知觉进入狂躁的状态。事实是，狂躁比沮丧可怕。当然，沮丧的状态同样很难挨。但相比之下，狂躁的状态会完全不受控制，什么事都敢做，而这状况真的要不得。

精神科医生告诉我，有点疲倦是好事，才不会任意妄为。以前的精力太旺盛，现在的一点疲倦，让我成为一个正常人。

2018-06-08

It's crucial to have the right medication and family support, so that bipolar disorder patients can have a normal life again. When such an illness strikes you, all your friends will stay away. Most probably, they do not know how to help you.

I have such an illness for so many years. As time goes by, my friends become lesser and lesser. Actually I really want to hang out with them, having good times with friends already became my memories. Once I have such an illness, I felt like being pulled into another world. No matter how well I try to describe such a world to my friends, they can never understand. The main problem is, I cannot return to the ordinary world anymore. Eventually, all of my old friends stay away from me, perhaps they say I am the one who stays away from them.

Even I can stand up again, having a permanent job, and exercise regularly, my perspective can never be the same as the rest of other people. That's the reason why I hardly click with any people. I'm blessed that my parents and siblings are with me no matter what. Bipolar disorder patient is a weirdo in the eyes of the world. How can we stay in harmony with other people? I think, we need respect and acceptance from the world. We never choose to be bipolar disorder patients. We can never prevent our weird actions and thoughts by will.

Everyone, no matter who, once they have been born into this world, they have the right to live. Yes, we have the right to live.   

2018-06-08

要好好维持一个部落格，老实说，真的不容易。曾经有个伟大的抱负，希望可以凭着自己的经历，去鼓励其他跟我一样得到躁郁症的朋友。在这世界上的躁郁症病患者的人数不少，但是可以跟一般人正常生活的人数却少之又少。

根据个人的经验，躁郁症病患者可以重新回到正常人的生活，总结来说有两个很重要的因素。第一、适合自己的药物。第二、家人不离不弃的支持。很幸运的，我刚好拥有这两大因素。去年九月再次入院，主要原因是当时服用不适合自己的药物。精神科医生帮我换了药后，那种药很适合自己，好让自己能迅速回到工作岗位。之前的药物会导致自己越来越肥胖，似乎怎么运动都没有用。最辛苦的是，情绪长期陷入低潮，做什么事都没有信心。心情一直处于沮丧的状态，生活会逐渐失去意义。为了避免自己会精神崩溃，我自愿在精神病院待一段时间。希望那一次，是最后一次待在精神病院。

有了这样的病后，身旁近乎没有朋友。我相信，主要的原因，是没有人知道要怎么样去帮助精神病患者。不要说正常人，即使自己本身有这样的病，同样不懂得怎么样去照顾和关怀其他的躁郁症病患者。躁郁症病患者很多样化，适合在我身上的东西，并不一定适合其他的病患者。举个例子，适合我的药物，不一定适合在其他的病患身上。医生不鼓励精神病患者常常跟其他的精神病患者接触，我猜想，是因为不要状况稳定了的精神病患者，因受到刺激而变成不稳定吧。感到欣慰的，是父母亲一直不离不弃地待在我身边。他们当然不懂得怎么做，可是有他们的陪伴，路多么难走都愿意走下去。

渴望有一天，我这成功的案例可以鼓励许许多多的躁郁症病患者。无论如何，一定要好好地生活下去。但愿我的状态能安安稳稳，然后可以扶持其他的病患者，成为他们的朋友。若不是父母的陪伴，还有家人精神上的支持，我真的会感到很孤单。除了家人，很希望有很多很多的朋友。

2018-02-16

It's Chinese New Year today, and I went back to my mother's hometown in Johore. It's fun to meet all my relatives because most probably I'd only meet them once a year. Thankfully they no longer ask me when will I get a girlfriend. I'm really getting older and older, so it's okay for me to stay single.

I cannot imagine if my parents pass away, will I come back to Johore once a year again? The fact is I am single but my parents are still by my side. If my parents are no longer by my side, I'll be totally on my own. What will be my life to be all by myself alone? That's why everyone thinks it's better to find a lover. However, if I cannot find a lover? I really don't want to simply grab someone and be my lifelong partner. If I cannot find a partner, I would rather stay alone by myself.

Generally, people cannot accept someone with mental health problems. They will accept them to be their colleagues or neighbours but surely not their close friends or lovers. Maybe there are people accept us but not many. Actually I don't really care about it. If no one wants to accept me, I still want to do something which can contribute to the society.