2020-02-05
说说约会吧。本人尝试过网上约会，付了大约九百多令吉的费用。当时的我真的以为透过这网上约会能够遇见另一半。那机构给予自己一年至少十次的约会，若过了一年无法获得十次约会的话，那么会员资格将获延长一年。
结果如何？一年过去了，才有几次的约会。获得延长一年，一直到期限只有九次约会。鼓励我参加此约会的朋友，不到一年就约会了十多次，而他也成功找到了女朋友。确实不想随随便便寻找另一半，纵然自己有精神问题。曾经遇到一位女生，似乎将成功，但我勇敢告诉了她我的精神状况。她很楞然我的诚实，却在夜晚各自回到家后来电告诉我，她只希望跟我保持普通朋友的关系。
其实这打击是挺大的，相信有许多女生都会跟她做相同的抉择。如果那些女生们在浏览我的资料时，那里明确表明此人患有躁郁症，深信过了两年后却没有女生愿意与我见面吧。许多人劝我尝试隐瞒，可是能够隐瞒多久呢？怎么解释为何每晚那么早入眠？怎么解释为何有硕士学位却只是位普通的工程师？怎么解释为何滴酒不沾？怎么解释偶尔的长期情绪沮丧而需要更多的清静空间？不喜欢说谎，因为不断地圆谎，此举动会让人心力交瘁。
依然是一个人，没有伴侣也没有孩子。学会孤单但不孤独，即使孤独也不寂寞。继续好好生活，固然没有另一半，我仍然是完整的一个人。
Wednesday, February 5, 2020
Wednesday, January 22, 2020
2020-01-22
It's really hard to write blog on daily basis but it's quite easy to manage by writing blog monthly. So, I'll try to write something here every single month.
Nothing much changes recently. Life becomes quite stable under medication for more than 2 years. Hence, boredom becomes a new challenge so far. Nevertheless, by having a good routine of exercise, I would still fall sick when I was having a long depression stage. It's should be a fact that our immune system is highly related with our moods.
Due to I would become sleepy at night after taking medication, I'd go to bed early at night and wake up early in the morning. If I have to involve in a night sport for example night cycling event, then I would take my medication when I reached home after the event. Of course we should take medication on the same time every day but it's better for me to take it after a sport event to avoid unnecessary accidents.
Dignity is another serious topic. While holding a disability card, how to I sustain my dignity? How could I bear the strange looks by the people when they see I have a disability card? To counteract with it, self acceptance plays a major role. For the majority, it's a shame for them to hold such a card. Even ladies stay away from me when they know I have such a mental illness. It's okay, I don't need people's recognition to survive.
In fact, we are stronger than ordinary people. It's not our choice to have such an illness but we choose to accept it, and live in the world like anybody else. The medication helps us to remain sanity but it's not an ultimate cure. Instead, we need to be strong and brave to face the monster inside and survive in this cruel world.
Yes, we are much stronger! If someone looks down on us, it's a shame for themselves but definitely not us. So, lift up our head and go on.
It's really hard to write blog on daily basis but it's quite easy to manage by writing blog monthly. So, I'll try to write something here every single month.
Nothing much changes recently. Life becomes quite stable under medication for more than 2 years. Hence, boredom becomes a new challenge so far. Nevertheless, by having a good routine of exercise, I would still fall sick when I was having a long depression stage. It's should be a fact that our immune system is highly related with our moods.
Due to I would become sleepy at night after taking medication, I'd go to bed early at night and wake up early in the morning. If I have to involve in a night sport for example night cycling event, then I would take my medication when I reached home after the event. Of course we should take medication on the same time every day but it's better for me to take it after a sport event to avoid unnecessary accidents.
Dignity is another serious topic. While holding a disability card, how to I sustain my dignity? How could I bear the strange looks by the people when they see I have a disability card? To counteract with it, self acceptance plays a major role. For the majority, it's a shame for them to hold such a card. Even ladies stay away from me when they know I have such a mental illness. It's okay, I don't need people's recognition to survive.
In fact, we are stronger than ordinary people. It's not our choice to have such an illness but we choose to accept it, and live in the world like anybody else. The medication helps us to remain sanity but it's not an ultimate cure. Instead, we need to be strong and brave to face the monster inside and survive in this cruel world.
Yes, we are much stronger! If someone looks down on us, it's a shame for themselves but definitely not us. So, lift up our head and go on.
Tuesday, January 21, 2020
2020-01-21
踏入新的一年，即将告别猪年迎来了鼠年。新的一年会更好吗？纵然不会却也如此期待。
曾经亲友们总会唠叨轰炸着我，过后已有很多年不再问我了。或许他们自己都厌烦了吧，每年问同样的问题，让他们都会厌恶自己。很奇怪，到了某个年龄，就好象不想恋爱。这应该是所谓的“心如止水”。
恋爱需要一股冲动。当年龄越长，对爱情渐渐不再渴望，也慢慢失去了冲动。无论如何，即使仍然是孤家寡人，生活一定要好好地过。拥有爱情以及拥有自己的家庭是幸福的，可是他们背后所经历的苦是无法言传的，只有当事者最清楚不过。不必羡慕，也不必对此存有憧憬。
身为精神病患，没有妻子与孩子也是好事。因为没有这方面大得惊人的压力，不必扛起身为丈夫与父亲的责任。若自己发生状况时，不至于成为妻子与孩子们的重担和包袱。当然在目前的单身状况，要好好确保自己安然生活。
要潇洒一些，大声告诉自己：“单身就单身吧，不是世界末日，而地球仍然在转动！”
Friday, December 20, 2019
2019-12-20
It's getting closer and closer towards Christmas, and this is the most wonderful day for me. Although people say that Christmas has been commercialised deeply and losing all the meanings, but for me it's still a day of ultimate love, and the love between family members and friends.
Recently, people keep emphasising the ideology of self love, keep talking about how important it is in order to love yourself. I would like to change a bit with the ideology. For me, I would prefer that all the bipolar people to fully accept ourselves. If we can learn how to love ourselves, it'll be great of course. Look at the suicidal rate, how come the suicidal rate for bipolar people remains number one? It's because of a long lasting severe depression, hopelessness, loneliness, and the sense of not belonging to any groups in the world? I'm not sure about other bipolar people, all these are my own thoughts.
Wholly accept ourselves. Bipolar disorder is part of us but not the full picture. We may feel deeper, sense stronger, analyse things stranger because of it. It's like a knife, and it's up to you to define whether it's a curse or a gift. Anyhow before that, we have to accept that we are holding a knife. Everyone is unique and we are a little more special. Accept it and embrace it into your life. I'm glad that I'm able to sense other people's feelings easily. This is just a minor part of my bipolar disorder.
It's getting closer and closer towards Christmas, and this is the most wonderful day for me. Although people say that Christmas has been commercialised deeply and losing all the meanings, but for me it's still a day of ultimate love, and the love between family members and friends.
Recently, people keep emphasising the ideology of self love, keep talking about how important it is in order to love yourself. I would like to change a bit with the ideology. For me, I would prefer that all the bipolar people to fully accept ourselves. If we can learn how to love ourselves, it'll be great of course. Look at the suicidal rate, how come the suicidal rate for bipolar people remains number one? It's because of a long lasting severe depression, hopelessness, loneliness, and the sense of not belonging to any groups in the world? I'm not sure about other bipolar people, all these are my own thoughts.
Wholly accept ourselves. Bipolar disorder is part of us but not the full picture. We may feel deeper, sense stronger, analyse things stranger because of it. It's like a knife, and it's up to you to define whether it's a curse or a gift. Anyhow before that, we have to accept that we are holding a knife. Everyone is unique and we are a little more special. Accept it and embrace it into your life. I'm glad that I'm able to sense other people's feelings easily. This is just a minor part of my bipolar disorder.
Thursday, December 19, 2019
2019-12-19
这一篇文章，应该是我今年的最后一篇中文文章。确实有很多东西想说，但是会限制自己不发牢骚，不要埋怨，也不要有任何的怨恨。很奇怪，人学坏比学好容易太多太多。同样的，说一大堆负面的话语，比诉说正面的话语轻松简单。
说说眼光。一般人都很在乎他人怎么看待自己，有很多人都很介意被别人看不起。总而言之，仿佛自己的存在和价值都建立在他人的目光。这样生活很累，因为这一辈子，我们是永远无法满足所有人。当然我不主张个人的行为举止，完全不在乎别人，以至自己活在全然属于自己的世界里。所谓入乡随俗，不同的地方都有各自不同的文化。遵守着道地的文化而生活，是当地人基本的尊重。
话说回来，对于别人怎么看自己，真的并不重要。简单来说，我是一名躁郁症病患者，那又怎么样？我拥有一张残障卡，用着它来获取生活上的特别优惠，别人怎么看我又怎么样？当身旁的朋友们知道了我的状况后，他们对待我的方式跟以前不一样，试问我又能怎样？当某些人选择因着我的精神问题而跟我有了距离，我还能怎样？
要建立这属于精神病患者的自信心非常困难。要不断提醒自己真的在这些事情上做得很棒了，在许多小事上一点一点慢慢建立上来。在外面的世界，被众人排斥和边缘化也不必太在意。最重要的，是完全接纳自己。即使没有人的鼓舞和打气，自己也不要忘记给自己当个永不离席的啦啦队。
Monday, November 25, 2019
2019-11-25
It's undoubtedly quite suffering entering the depression state. Most probably due to medication, all sorts of mentally and physically pains are gone. However, I have to bear the fatigue feelings during the day time.
Just an ordinary middle age guy in Malaysia. Not from a rich family and I still have to work and support my parents. Actually I can easily get medical leave from a psychiatrist but I don't want to do so. Besides getting a medical leave while consulting my psychiatrist once a year, I seldom get medical leave from the psychiatrist. Perhaps, my colleagues who do not have mental health problems may apply more medical leave than I.
For me, exercise has become part of my life. Running, cycling and swimming are really fun. Some more, these sports can be done alone. Socialising is okay during normal state but it'll be tough during depression state. If I push myself to social with people during this time, it may cause unnecessary stress inside. I prefer not to talk to anyone during this moment. Thus, I may still enjoy all these activities without talking to people.
Another obvious thing is, I really crave for chocolates. Actually I'm on diet and hope to burn a few kilograms more. By having chocolates, it'll give me some courage to go on. I'll take a bit during this moment but truly under control. Depression state will be ceased soon, I believe.
It's undoubtedly quite suffering entering the depression state. Most probably due to medication, all sorts of mentally and physically pains are gone. However, I have to bear the fatigue feelings during the day time.
Just an ordinary middle age guy in Malaysia. Not from a rich family and I still have to work and support my parents. Actually I can easily get medical leave from a psychiatrist but I don't want to do so. Besides getting a medical leave while consulting my psychiatrist once a year, I seldom get medical leave from the psychiatrist. Perhaps, my colleagues who do not have mental health problems may apply more medical leave than I.
For me, exercise has become part of my life. Running, cycling and swimming are really fun. Some more, these sports can be done alone. Socialising is okay during normal state but it'll be tough during depression state. If I push myself to social with people during this time, it may cause unnecessary stress inside. I prefer not to talk to anyone during this moment. Thus, I may still enjoy all these activities without talking to people.
Another obvious thing is, I really crave for chocolates. Actually I'm on diet and hope to burn a few kilograms more. By having chocolates, it'll give me some courage to go on. I'll take a bit during this moment but truly under control. Depression state will be ceased soon, I believe.
Friday, November 22, 2019
2019-11-22
一直以来，过了十月底，即会进入长达将近两个月的忧郁期。每一次在圣诞节之前都会消失不见。所以这么多年以来，都会期待圣诞节快快来临。从二十四岁开始，这忧郁期是令人痛苦难熬的。
挨着挨着，我已是个四十岁的中年男子。这一次的忧郁期，突然没有以前那么煎熬了。发生了什么事呢？有几点我想跟大家分享的，经过在脑袋里整理好了后，才在这部落格传达。个人觉得，主要有三点：睡眠、运动和减少压力。
在这三项里头，睡眠是最重要的。当然定时不间断服药是首要的，但是在这里想要分享除了服药之外的讯息。每天在固定的时候入眠，过后在近乎固定的时间清醒。如果没有良好的睡眠，第二天一整天都不会拥有好心情。躁郁症病患者的脾气，一般都不太好。避免做出任何会让自己暴怒的状况，假如一发不可收拾，那么就会无比糟糕。还有一点，在睡眠之前，把手机放静音，好让不会在半夜被手机的铃声干扰。
紧接着，我们必需常常运动。专家们会告诉大家运动有多么重要，但对于一般人，他们即使不运动也不会怎样。可是我们不可以如此，运动对我们来说，太重要啦！每个礼拜都要持之以恒有个规律的运动习惯。运动后，脑袋会释放多巴胺，而这荷尔蒙会减轻忧郁时的痛楚，同时也会缓和急躁时的浮躁。在忧郁期会感到莫名疲倦，运动后可以为自己大大提神。
至于第三点，减少压力也是很重要。可是如果可以做好第一和第二点，这第三点会让情况变得更好。减少压力，这真的是说得轻松，但做起来却不容易。怎么减少压力呢？本人觉得，应该是不要给自己拟定过高的目标。设定目标是好的，但过高难以完成的目标却会带给自己不必要的压力。很多事情，尽力做就对了，至于结果如何，要学会以豁达的心态去面对。
好了，今天就分享到这里。希望大家尽力好好生活！
一直以来，过了十月底，即会进入长达将近两个月的忧郁期。每一次在圣诞节之前都会消失不见。所以这么多年以来，都会期待圣诞节快快来临。从二十四岁开始，这忧郁期是令人痛苦难熬的。
挨着挨着，我已是个四十岁的中年男子。这一次的忧郁期，突然没有以前那么煎熬了。发生了什么事呢？有几点我想跟大家分享的，经过在脑袋里整理好了后，才在这部落格传达。个人觉得，主要有三点：睡眠、运动和减少压力。
在这三项里头，睡眠是最重要的。当然定时不间断服药是首要的，但是在这里想要分享除了服药之外的讯息。每天在固定的时候入眠，过后在近乎固定的时间清醒。如果没有良好的睡眠，第二天一整天都不会拥有好心情。躁郁症病患者的脾气，一般都不太好。避免做出任何会让自己暴怒的状况，假如一发不可收拾，那么就会无比糟糕。还有一点，在睡眠之前，把手机放静音，好让不会在半夜被手机的铃声干扰。
紧接着，我们必需常常运动。专家们会告诉大家运动有多么重要，但对于一般人，他们即使不运动也不会怎样。可是我们不可以如此，运动对我们来说，太重要啦！每个礼拜都要持之以恒有个规律的运动习惯。运动后，脑袋会释放多巴胺，而这荷尔蒙会减轻忧郁时的痛楚，同时也会缓和急躁时的浮躁。在忧郁期会感到莫名疲倦，运动后可以为自己大大提神。
至于第三点，减少压力也是很重要。可是如果可以做好第一和第二点，这第三点会让情况变得更好。减少压力，这真的是说得轻松，但做起来却不容易。怎么减少压力呢？本人觉得，应该是不要给自己拟定过高的目标。设定目标是好的，但过高难以完成的目标却会带给自己不必要的压力。很多事情，尽力做就对了，至于结果如何，要学会以豁达的心态去面对。
好了，今天就分享到这里。希望大家尽力好好生活！
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